The Unanswered Text Message

The unanswered text message is not the only type of  “text message” that can get your heat racing.

So, both of you have been talking for a little while. Everything is going great, you text each other back and forth all the time (it’s equal on both sides of the phone.) One day you’re dying to talk to him so you text him and you wait and wait and wait and there’s still no reply. For some women it’s natural for their thoughts to go into overdrive and sometimes even their actions become involuntary as if another person took over their body.

There’s not much to do at this point but here are a few rules to help you get through this situation:

Rule #1 Don’t Over Think

Freaking out and becoming paranoid is unacceptable and believe me when I say insecurity is not your best trait. You have to consider other possibilities other than thinking, “he’s ignoring me” or “why won’t he answer me? did I do something wrong?” Remember there’s a possibility that he’s asleep, in the bathroom, has stepped away from his phone or even that his phone has died. So calm down and do something that will keep you distracted.

Rule #2 Don’t Message Him

The truth is that sending more than two text messages right after the other before he has a chance to answer can make you seem crazy and desperate. So Just Don’t Do It. Wait for him to answer you back before hitting the send button. One of the last things any girl would want is for a guy to think that she’s annoying and has nothing else better to do.

Rule #3 The Ball Is In His Court

After you send the first text it is up to him to reply back. With guys it is extremely simple because if he wants to talk to you then he will and if he doesn’t then he won’t. Guys won’t waste their time on a girl that they don’t like. He might not reply back that same day or even the very next day but if he wants to talk to you then he will make the time to send that text. Just make sure you keep yourself busy and your options open in the mean time.

Rule #4 Wait Two Days To Send Another Text

From experience I think two days is a fair amount of time. If you text a guy on Monday and he doesn’t reply that same day or on Tuesday then I think Wednesday gives you enough time to try again. Saying, “hey, what’s up” is much less abrasive than asking him “where have you been?” or “why didn’t you reply the other day?” Not only will you sound like his mother you’ll also sound like another overbearing female. If he doesn’t text back (for the second and god forbid possible third time) then let him go and move on. It’s not worth going after someone who doesn’t care.

Rule #5 Live Your Life

xoxo, niki